How to Recognize When You're Out of Alignment - 6 Simple Steps to Realign
Have you ever felt like something’s just...off?
Maybe you’re killing it at work, but you’re still feeling stuck, drained, or feeling barely alive.
This could be a sign you’re out of alignment with yourself and honestly, it happens to all of us.
When you’re a high-achiever juggling a million things—career, relationships, personal growth—it’s easy to lose sight of what really lights you up.
What does it mean to live in alignment?
Living in alignment means that you know what’s important to you and you actively incorporate these things into your daily life. It isn’t about being perfect or having it all figured out, and we need to be careful not to use “living out of alignment” as another way to judge ourselves, another thing on our “to do” list where we’re falling short.
It’s about creating a life that feels good from the inside out. When your actions match your values and you’re moving with purpose, life feels easier. You are more energized, confident, and ready to tackle anything that comes your way.
Signs You’re Out of Alignment
You know those moments when everything feels like an uphill battle, and no matter how hard you push, things just don’t seem to click?
That’s a pretty clear sign you’re out of alignment. It’s not always obvious at first, but once you tune into how you're feeling, the signs are all there.
Here are a few common ways being out of alignment shows up:
You feel stuck or unmotivated
Even when you’re crushing it in your career or personal goals, something feels off. It’s like you’re going through the motions but not really feeling it. If your usual drive and excitement are missing, it might be a sign that you’re out of sync with what truly matters to you.
You’re constantly drained
You could be getting enough sleep, eating well, and doing all the “right” things, but you still feel exhausted—physically and emotionally. When you’re not living in alignment, life can feel like it’s taking more energy than it’s giving.
Things feel harder than they should
You’re putting in effort, but it feels like you’re swimming upstream. Challenges seem bigger, obstacles tougher to overcome, and everything takes a lot more effort. When you’re aligned, there’s more flow and less struggle.
You’re ignoring your inner voice
You get that gut feeling, that whisper in the back of your mind, but you brush it off or override it with logic. If you find yourself constantly doubting your intuition or second-guessing your decisions, it could mean you’re not aligned with your inner self.
You’re people-pleasing or chasing external validation
If you’re making decisions based on what others expect or think, instead of what you want, you’re out of alignment. Living your life for others is a surefire way to feel disconnected from yourself.
When you’re out of alignment, it’s like you’re pushing uphill all the time. Things feel harder than they need to, and that’s your clue to pause and realign. The good news? You have the power to course-correct and get back to a place where life flows more easily!
Why Living in Alignment is Key to Thriving?
Living in alignment is like hitting that sweet spot where everything just flows. When your mind, body, and soul are working together, life feels easier, more fulfilling, and you operate from a place of confidence and clarity.
Here's why it’s so powerful:
You’re energized and focused
When you're aligned, you're no longer fighting against yourself. Instead, your energy is directed toward what truly matters, making everything feel lighter and more manageable. Work becomes more fulfilling, lighter, even fun.
Decisions become easier
No more second-guessing or getting stuck in analysis paralysis. You trust yourself, knowing that your choices are in sync with your higher purpose and values. All that time you spend second guessing yourself is just eliminated.
You feel more connected
Whether it’s to your work, relationships, or personal goals, living in alignment helps you feel deeply connected to everything you do. This connection fuels your passion and brings a sense of fulfillment.
You attract opportunities
When you’re living in alignment, you naturally attract people, experiences, and opportunities that are meant for you. It’s like the universe starts aligning with you, making things fall into place with less effort.
You thrive in your own power
Being in alignment isn’t about perfection; it’s about living authentically and embracing who you truly are. You stop playing small, step into your power, and start living a life that’s expansive, joyful, and truly yours.
The best part? Living in alignment is a daily practice. The more you tune into yourself and make small adjustments, the more you’ll notice everything starts to click. You become unstoppable.
6 Simple Steps to Realign Yourself
When life feels off or you’re having a bad day (it happens to all of us, more than most of us care to admit) the good news is that it’s totally fixable.
Having one bad day doesn't mean you have to start over from square one. Think of it more like saving currency in a bank. Ideally, you have enough saved up that you can easily start again.
Here are a few simple steps you can take to get back on track:
Shake off the Stuck Energy
When you feel meh, what’s your go-to for a reset? Ideally it’s something that moves your body, could be exercise, running, yoga, HIIT class, dancing. It could also be more mindful like breathwork (Wim Hof has the most accessible, entry level options I've tried), self-pleasure, sound bath and yin yoga class. Find something that works for you, that gets you out of your head and into your body.
Pause and Tune In
Then check in with how you're feeling. How do you do this best? Is it meditation, journaling, or drawing? Are you tense, stressed, or drained? Get curious about what’s going on inside—your body is always sending signals when things are out of balance. Sometimes just acknowledging how you feel is the first step to realigning. Name it. Own it. Allow it.
Revisit Your Why
What’s your big picture? Your purpose? When you’re out of alignment, it’s easy to lose sight of why you’re doing what you do. Take a moment to reconnect with your “why” and remind yourself of the bigger vision for your life. This helps you realign with what truly matters. If you don’t know the answer to this, take the time to dig deeply into it.
Let Go of What’s Not Serving You
Sometimes, living out of alignment happens because you’re holding onto things that no longer serve you—whether it’s a mindset, a relationship, or a routine. Ask yourself, “What am I ready to release?” Releasing limiting beliefs makes room for what’s meant to align with you.
Prioritize Self-Care
When you're out of alignment, it’s a sign that your mind, body, or spirit needs some TLC. Schedule regular “me time” to do what makes you feel good, whether it’s a yoga class, a long walk in nature, or binge-watching your favorite show guilt-free. When you take care of yourself, you’re better equipped to handle whatever life throws your way.
Practice Mindfulness
Engage in practices that ground you, like meditation or deep breathing exercises. Being present helps you connect with your feelings and thoughts, making it easier to identify what’s misaligned in your life. Plus, mindfulness can significantly reduce stress!
Take Inspired Action
Start small! Choose one area of your life to focus on and take one step, no matter how tiny. This could be updating your resume for a job you really want, reaching out to an old friend, or starting that project you’ve been putting off. Taking action, even in small doses, creates momentum and gets you closer to your goals.
How To Maintain Alignment in Everyday Life?
Now that you’ve taken steps to realign, how do you keep that sense of flow and alignment going, even when life throws challenges your way?
It’s all about building habits that help you stay connected to your true self.
Morning Check-In
Start your day with intention. Take a few minutes in the morning to ask yourself: How do I want to feel today? What can I do to stay aligned with my goals and values? This simple practice sets the tone for the day and keeps you focused on what matters most.
Reflect and Realign at Night
Before bed, take time to reflect on your day. What went well? What didn’t? What small adjustments can you make tomorrow to feel more aligned? By building in this reflection, you’ll get better at recognizing when you’re drifting and quickly course-correcting.
Create Boundaries
High-performance women like you often take on a lot, but staying aligned means knowing when to say no. Protect your energy by setting boundaries that prioritize your well-being and your goals. Remember, your time and energy are your most valuable resources!
Surround Yourself with Support
High-performing women often feel like they have to do it all alone, but that’s a surefire way to get out of alignment. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, keep you accountable, and remind you of your purpose when you start to doubt yourself. Maybe it’s a networking group or a women's circle. Find something that fills your cup.
Practice Gratitude
Focusing on what’s working and what you’re grateful for brings more of that good energy into your life. It shifts your mindset toward abundance and helps you feel more connected to your journey. Try writing down a few things you're thankful for each day—it’s a powerful alignment tool. This is one of Oprah’s most powerful tools.
Celebrate Small Wins
It’s easy to focus on what’s not working, but living in alignment also means celebrating the things that are going well. Acknowledge your progress, no matter how small, and let those wins fuel your momentum. It’s all about staying in the energy of growth and possibility.
Stay Open to Change
Living in alignment isn’t static—what feels right today might evolve over time. Stay open to shifting and adapting as your goals, passions, and priorities change. Being flexible with your alignment allows you to grow without resistance.
The more you commit to these practices, the easier it becomes to stay aligned, grounded, and in flow—no matter what life throws at you. Keep trusting yourself and your journey, and watch how alignment leads to more ease, joy, and fulfillment.
You’re not alone on this path. Let’s lift each other up and shine together, because when we live in alignment, we become unstoppable!
If you’re ready to dive deeper into this journey of alignment, I’m here for you—let’s connect and make magic happen! 💖